3 THINGS I WOULD TELL MY FORMER GREEN SELF
It's been a hot minute since I've updated the blog, my bad homies.. It's been a very busy summer with lots of traveling and teaching. I'm home for the next few months and will be focusing on some new education and my salon team as well. I'm excited to be working on new stuff for you guys!
I'm approaching my 16th year anniversary behind the chair and I was reminiscing about the beginning years of my career. I remember being so scared with every client, especially before the client came in, envisioning the worst of the worst and every possible disastrous situation that could possibly happen. I was scared to death of bobs and reds. My worst nightmare was a 100% grey client coming in wanting a 6R base and a bob from scratch. If they already had a bob it would freak me out too but I would try to follow the cut from before as much as I could.
Luckily, I was good at playing it cool and confident, even though that was the furthest from the truth. I also, never hesitated to ask for help and advice. There is nothing wrong with asking for help and learning from others. Acting like you know everything or you're too good to learn something new never helped anyone.
It took me about 5 years to feel comfortable with any situation thrown at me. It felt SO good when I realized that. It made me happy. I'm not saying that all my work was perfect, no way, I wish.... It still isn't. What I'm saying is, that fear went away, that nervousness of that new client wouldn't daunt me days before their service.
You know what else made me nervous and took me awhile to get over? Looking at the client in the mirror in her face at the end of the service and asking if they were happy. That just makes me laugh now! But that eye contact at the very end would freak me out. I made myself do it anyway.
Here's some advice I would tell my former green self:
- Practice till you're comfortable. If I had an issue with bobs and reds, I should have been doing them on a mannequin as much as possible till I felt better about it. Instead of being scared of even practicing, I just should have been knocking out 20 hours of bobs and reds in my spare time. Hey, you can't complain about it, you have to do something about it.
- Be logical. I don't know about you guys but this happened to me a good bit before I just said stop. When I was faced with something that I was unsure about, sometimes I would pull these crazy things out of my hat.... like for example: oh, I saw so and so at a hair show flip the hair upside down and cut... or saw this formula on YouTube etc. Be logical and do what you know works.
- Say no. It's ok to say no to a client. I used to believe that if I said "no, that's not possible", then I was a failure. But science is science. Some things aren't possible in one session or not at all depending on the hair and situation. It's also ok to tell them that you don't feel comfortable doing something. When you get hit with "my previous stylist did it or could do it", then you have to say "I'm sorry but with my experience I don't feel comfortable putting your hair through that" or whatever you'd like to say. Don't get suckered in and don't feel bad. If your gut is telling you no, that's not gonna happen today, then tell your client. You have to set the expectations.
I would love to hear about the beginnings of your careers and what you would tell your former selves. We all can learn from each other or at least be there for each other. Peace out, homies... Till next time!